I often wrote you letters that put you in tears, I guess that what I was often good at, words.
You taught me compassion, patience, acceptance…
You taught me to speak my opinion, be what I want to be, openness…
You sacrificed a lot for our sake, but I don’t feel an obligation to repay you.
Whatever you do, you do it because you want to and not to expect something in return.
There is no obligation.
It is mother’s day, and everyone is speaking about what they bought to their mothers.
Some are arguing about if they would buy something to the house or to her personally. How publicity use mother’s day to sell tools for the kitchen and the house, spreading more a specific role for women that I dislike.
I don’t care though now.
I am ashamed.
You called me and said: “I need you to keep on fighting and stay patient”
You have told me "If i ever get sick, I rather die than be a burden on you" (the idea that most parents feel like a burden on their kids, kills me).
I was sitting there near my aunt who was telling her daughter “I don’t revolt because I have a family to protect, by the law I can lose my kids and would not be able to be near you and I would rather bear all the pain and be near you”.
I kissed my aunt and told her I was sorry, I also kissed my grandmas and my mother and I apologized.
Do you understand?
Our mothers aren’t only facing the world and all its hardship but they are also facing the laws against them or lack of the laws.
It is not about women and men, but when a law favors a gender on another, it freaking is.
They can’t protect themselves or children, they can’t give their nationality to their kids, they can’t leave the country with the kids without a permission from the husband, and don’t forget about all the bullshit they have to endure because of all the gender related expectations and Do and don’t.
Every minister or a person with authority who stood as an obstacle to provide women their basics rights, go wish your mother a happy mother’s day.
A happy day.
I can’t, I feel ashamed.